When I first started blogging, I was terrified to be totally real. I have never wanted to label myself by putting too much emphasis on my history, but the fact of the matter is, an eating disorder and body dysmorphia ruled my life for many years. There are many things I missed out on, things I regret, and people I hurt along the way. No, it’s not glamorous, but it’s the truth.
When I finally exposed myself a little bit in this post, I felt a sense of relief. I know the very act of mentioning the words eating- disorder is kind of faux pas but I don’t care anymore. I think things have to change. Eating disorders thrive on secrecy, self-hatred, isolation, and denial. Going against these things is naturally, very frightening.
What I have realized is that every time I own who I actually am and what I actually struggle with, I become a little more free from the destructive patterns of my past. Pretending your issues don’t exist doesn’t make them disappear. My intention isn’t to label myself but rather, to accept myself… all of myself. By doing this, I can finally, fully be there for others.
Recently, I began asking strangers what they would tell someone who is struggling with body image and self confidence and they said beautiful, inspiring things. Sometimes I want to cry & hug them for being brave enough to tell me something real.
My little project got me thinking… What would I tell someone struggling with body image, low self confidence, &/or an eating disorder??
Since this question hits so close to home, what wouldn’t I say??
For starters I would say this:
I know it is damn hard to love yourself and sometimes the only positive thing you can tell yourself, is that it’s ok that you couldn’t think of anything positive to tell yourself.
It get’s easier. It’s ok if you don’t believe this. I didn’t either.
Start being kind to yourself every single day. Even if it’s something totally silly or small. Practicing self-care in baby steps is better than not practicing it at all.
I would say that you are more beautiful and strong than you could ever imagine and that every moment you live feeling trapped in your own fear you are missing out on something.
Finally (for now) I would say, you are worth it.
What would you tell someone struggling with body acceptance, confidence issues or an eating disorder?
Is that someone you?