Do you know someone who is “Type-A”? A perfectionist? An overachiever? Maybe you have been called one of these things or self-identify? I know there have been a few “serious posts” lately and I promise light-hearted, leopard print wearing, chocolate eating, street art reporting, SF loving posting will be back again soon… but for now, here comes the serious (and of course a little bit of sarcasm).
I think a few too many of us suffer from a medical condition (yet to be discovered or researched ;-))
This condition is actually a syndrome that goes by the name-
“Nothing is ever good enough syndrome”
Major signs & symptoms:
- Long to-do lists (with some unreasonable expectations/deadlines)
- Major self-criticism & berating despite a high level of performance
- Inability to live in the moment AKA perfectionism
- Advanced stages can progress to general dissatisfaction with one’s life
- Inability to relax or take time off
- Striving for perfection
If one is working to a point of exhaustion, always thinking productivity can be increased, &/or things can be done better/more efficient or that more can be crammed in a day…. A diagnosis is made.
- Forced down time (i.e.: one must partake in one “just for fun” activity every day with NO multitasking. For example, one hour of TV without catching up on computer work or lifting weights)
- Mindfulness, meditation, deep breathing, yoga- anything to slow the mind down
- Repeat the mantra “I am enough” (even if NOTHING gets “done” today)
- Live in and appreciate the moment because ultimately, striving for happiness is much more practical & meaningful than striving for perfection
This syndrome first became apparent to me during a long phone conversation with my mom the other day. We both promised to “schedule” down time into our busy lives, which was a brilliant idea. We also reminded each other that the “nothing is ever good enough” way of thinking, is an easy way to become unhappy quickly.
Some of the ways I have been “treating” my syndrome the past few days have been reading cool articles, playing candy crush (yes, I am about 2 years late on most trends), sipping on lemon water (spppaaaa water as I call it), and taking afternoon weekend naps. I finally understand nappers, like my blogger & chocolate friend Taya!
Two articles I enjoyed during my down time:
23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing. Read it here !
10 Mistakes to Avoid at Your Next Marathon. LOVE reading about running almost as much as I love to run. Here ya go!
I hope you had a wonderful weekend! Here is to hoping we can all be a little less hard on ourself. And, here is to hoping we can strive for happiness, not necessarily just busy-ness.